Friendships continued

I feel like I am a fast friend. If I meet you, and we hit it off, I am so ready to plan out our lives together. Eventually, when I get to know those friends though, many times, we were definitely more of a friendship of a moment than a lifetime. I have struggled with this forever and I have not always managed the ends of those friendships well (aka I slowly pull back until I ghost). That’s an incredibly hurtful way to end a chapter in anyone’s lives. All of this experience I have been sharing about my major friendship loss has taught me the importance of communicating the transitions in life. No one needs to say THIS FRIENDSHIP IS DONEZO but maybe just a conversation about how life has changed for you and you just need space.

I asked you all to share advice for someone going through an end of a major friendship and you guys showed up. A few of my favorite pieces of advice are below.

• Don’t vent to mutual friends. Journal it or talk to people who are not in the middle.

• You aren’t a failure because the friendship ended. As you grow, you may outgrow people & their behavior.

• Friends can be friends for a season or a lifetime, and they all teach you something.

• It’s normal to mourn the loss.

• Stay off their social media, no creeping them!!

• There are two people in the situation. Don’t pile all the blame on yourself.

• It’s a grieving process, like a divorce or even death. It’s a loss of the past and future.

• Find grace to hold your boundaries but be truthful without resorting to being hurtful.

Appreciate you all and your thoughtful words!

xox,

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